(Note: If you haven’t yet read the page Traveling a Different Path, you might want to do that before reading this page.)
So what do you do when the group comes to a place like this, and decides to take the path on the right? Is that going to feel uncomfortable? Or are you going to be ok with that?
What if I tell you this is a trick question? What if, in the real situations you will encounter, all you see is a road that looks like this one on the left? You don’t see any path splitting off to go a different way. You just suddenly realize that the rest of the group has apparently wandered off the road. People are sitting in the grass, looking a t the clouds. Or they’re picking some kind of plant that’s growing among the taller grasses. What do you do then?
The statements below are all things that participants in collaborative Tapestry meetings have actually said (yep, actually) at some point when this kind of thing has really happened. Familiarize yourself with the list so that if you find one of those concerns rising within you, you’ll recognize it as an important signpost on this journey you’re making into Indigenous worldview. When you realize that’s what has happened, come to this page and click on the statement. The link will take you to a page that explains another way to think about whatever is happening. That will help you feel more comfortable — which will help everybody else feel more comfortable too.
Click the link to see how to handle it, if you find yourself thinking, or wanting to say, one of these things:
“Oh! But if you do that thing you just suggested, then it means this other thing has to also happen! They always go together, one following the other. You don’t want that second thing to happen, so don’t start down the path this direction you’re heading now! Watch out!”
“We don’t want to encourage people to use actual science in this. We want to encourage artistic expression instead,”
“Where’s the agenda for our meeting?”
“Gosh. Tomorrow is our last day and no one has said anything about having any dreams that relate to this work. Maybe that one I had the night before last was just wishful thinking on my part. But they said to share a thing like that. Oh, but I just can’t! They would think I was crazy!”
“How are we ever going to finish our work in time?! We’ve been working for days and we’re nearly out of time, but we haven’t gotten anywhere productive yet!”
“We don’t want to let people include religion in this. It’s too hard to assess religion or spirituality. We need to make sure they stick to things that can be quantified.”
“But this isn’t what we said we were going to do. We’re not fulfilling our project goals at all!”
“It’s not creativity that matters here. It’s compassion.”
“We really need to pick up the pace on things and move them along. What’s our most immediate goal here? What do we need to do to reach it?”
“It doesn’t seem like anyone has anything much to contribute to the discussion today. Maybe we’re all just tired. But I think I can help if you don’t mind my jumping in. I’ve been thinking that what we should do is . . . “
“Honey, the people in our group were asked to go out on the Land and do ceremony today, before we meet again later. So I have a break. Do you want to go for a bike ride and grab lunch at that new bistro? At least that way I would be outside like they asked. I think we could get back in time for my meeting. Maybe I’ll see a bird or something on the way.”
“This woman in our group told the most amazing story today! Apparently it’s the creation myth for her tribe. She said that at the beginning of time, this crow . . . “
When you finish using the links in the statements above, use this Menu to visit previous pages:
How We Work
Learning in Community
The One Big Rule
Traveling a Different Path